Understanding Men’s Need for Healing Touch – Tantric Massage for Men
In today’s society, many men carry burdens that see them disconnected from their bodies (and potentially their hearts). This can look like:
- Physical tension from chronic stress and demanding lifestyles
- Emotional armouring from years of suppressing feelings through either not knowing how to or not feeling safe to do so
- Numbness to sensations and physical feeling
- Shame around their sexual expression and intimacy
- Difficulty experiencing pleasure without the pressure of performance
- Challenges with intimacy and authentic connection
In addition we have seen a rise in pornography use which has shown it can affect our ability to connect on a deeper level as well as wire the brain to need a fast and intense stimuli in order for arousal and to ‘get off’, a lack in healthy, well-rounded sexual education which can affect our ability and understanding of what sex ‘should’ and ‘shouldn’t’ look like and a lot of other reasons, even and including a higher and earlier decline in testosterone in men due to our modern lifestyles has impacted desire and libido.
Tantric massage offers a gentle pathway to address these deep-seated challenges, providing a rare space where men can step into deep relaxation, receivership and feel.
The Difference Between Erotic Massage, Sensual Massage and Tantric Massage for Men
Erotic Massage
Erotic massage primarily focuses on physical arousal and sexual stimulation. Its core intention is to awaken and intensify sexual desire through various massage techniques. The primary aim is to provide pleasure, often leading to sexual gratification. The techniques employed are explicitly aimed at stimulating erogenous zones and often lead to sexual release. The primary focus is physical arousal and gratification rather than emotional or spiritual connection.
Sensual Massage
Sensual massage involves a broader approach towards stimulating the senses. It prioritises engaging all the senses for a more intimate, pleasurable experience. The aim here is not solely sexual arousal but a comprehensive indulgence of touch, sound, smell, and other sensory elements to create a relaxing, enjoyable experience. It could involve light, teasing touches or a gentle massage aimed at promoting relaxation and a heightened sensory experience. Sensual massage fosters a more profound connection between the giver and receiver.
Tantric Massage
Tantric massage is a holistic and intimate practice that goes beyond the physical realm. While sensuality and arousal are aspects, they are not the sole focus. It incorporates ancient teachings from tantra, energy flow, and connection to the divine. The purpose is to balance and unite the body, mind, and spirit, fostering a deeper understanding and connection to self and others.
Tantric massage typically involves slow, intentional movements, deep breathing, and the channelling of sexual energy throughout the body rather than immediate release. It’s a more meditative, embodied and spiritual practice, which promotes a connection to the physical, emotional, energetic and spiritual bodies. Its intention is not merely physical pleasure but a holistic experience encompassing physical, emotional, and spiritual elements, aiming for an overall sense of unity. Tantric massage is the practice of receiving, without a goal and no specific peak to reach. In a professional setting, it is one-way touch only – practitioner to client.
What Makes Tantric Massage Different
- A therapeutic approach focused on healing
- Integration of breath and energy work
- Attention to emotional and spiritual wellbeing
- Safe space to explore sensation
- Professional, trauma-informed holding
Devotional Tantric Bodywork – A Somatic Sexual Healing Modality
At IN-Body Intimacy, head practitioner Jacinta Carmen has been trained and accredited in Devotional Tantric Bodywork® – one of the first accredited tantric modalities to include both therapeutic lingam and yoni massage.
Devotional Tantric Bodywork draws on the foundations of tantric massage. It is a therapeutic somatic sexual healing modality which, through the application of nervous system designed bodywork techniques, supports the soma to release layers (physical, emotional, and energetic) of contraction (tension, holding, protection/ armour) and allows the body to return to its natural state of relaxation and expansion (spaciousness and aliveness), where life force energy moves and flows through the body.
The Healing Power of Tantric Massage for Men & Devotional Bodywork
Through conscious touch and presence, we:
- Activate the parasympathetic nervous system
- Release tension patterns
- Create new neural associations
- Support natural healing responses
- Allow natural arousal to emerge
- Enhance energy circulation
Tantric massage works with your body’s natural healing abilities which may lead to regulating the nervous system, balancing sexual hormones, reform neural pathways, release stored tension and contractions to support enhancement of energy flow through the body.
“We are at our healthiest when we are circulating energy within ourselves, our daily activities and our relationships.”
Tantric Massage or Devotional Bodywork can addresses core challenges men may potentially experience:
Breaking Free from Performance Pressure
Releasing the need to “achieve” or “perform” and therefore experience pleasure without goals and without expectations, being present and learning to receive without the need to give back.
Healing Emotional Wounds
Releasing trapped emotions stored in the body, processing past experiences, transforming shame into self-acceptance and building trust in a safe container.
Reconnecting with Your Body
Overcoming numbness and disconnection while developing a deeper relationship with your body through awakening sensation and feeling by listening to your body’s wisdom.
Stress Release
Releasing deep-seated physical tension and contractions through the experience of true relaxations, perhaps for the first time.
Healing Sexual Dysfunction Through Sacred Touch
Tantric massage or Devotional Bodywork supports natural healing for:
Libido and Arousal
By reawakening natural sexual energy, releasing arousal blocks and connecting to authentic desire through building sexual vitality.
Neural Pathway Rewiring
By releasing old patterns and triggers, building new associations with touch, developing body-mind connection and integrating new ways of experiencing pleasure.
Sensation and Connection
By restoring natural sensitivity, overcoming numbness, developing subtle awareness and enhancing pleasure capacity through a deeper body connection.
Who Seeks This Work – Tantric Massage & Devotional Bodywork
Men seek out this work for many reasons:
- Those seeking stress relief and embodiment
- Those healing from relationship challenges
- Those working through trauma or anxiety
- Those exploring spiritual sexuality
- Anyone seeking deeper connection with themselves
Devotional bodywork is suitable for anybody genuinely open and curious about the work. It works against the deep conditioning and imprinting we all hold around sexuality. The want to explore your vulnerabilities and depths is important and supports your intentions and potential outcomes.
In-Body Intimacy in Bondi – An Invitation into Presence, Release, & Expansion
In-Body Intimacy in Bondi offers a deeply grounded and trauma-informed approach to men’s healing. With integrity at the core, each session is guided by a deep understanding of men’s unique healing needs, ensuring complete confidentiality, respect, and experienced practitioner support.
Beginning Our Work Together
Deepen intimacy with yourself and others by awakening and deepening your capacity to feel, through the practice of receptivity, the art of being, and loving, devotional touch.
If you are feeling called to this work, the first step is a conversation with Jacinta where you can share any questions answers and ensure the practice aligns with you.
Please also know that is is normal to feel both nervous and excited, all of your feelings are welcome and celebrated, there is no pressure or expectation and we only move at your pace.
You can read more on Tantric Bodywork & Tantric Massage for Male Bodies (Lingam Owners) here – or book a free phone session to connect directly with Jacinta below.
